This is a special moment. The first wobble. They run up to you; "Mom, mom, my tooth feels funny!" This is the beginning of gaps in mouths and magical gifts from the tooth fairy. It shows they are growing up, losing their baby teeth and are just that little bit closer to adulthood.
This can (and will likely be) a really fun time for both of you. But how do you make the most of it? When is the best time to pull out a loose tooth, if at all? And how can you make this moment so magical, that they remember it for the rest of their lives?
Before considering how to pull out a tooth, you will want to make sure it is meant to be falling out. Kids often take a tumble and sometimes a knock to the mouth can mean that one of their baby teeth comes loose.
So it is important to first be sure that the tooth is wobbly because it is meant to be, and that an adult tooth is erupting, rather than there being a dental issue. If you have any concerns whatsoever, it's always a good idea to contact your dentist, just to make sure everything is fine.
One way to spot whether this is a malfunction or definitely a wobbly tooth for the tooth fairy, is to note the child's age, as they normally start falling out at around six or seven years of age.
Another way is the order in which they come out. This is usually pretty much the same for all children. The first teeth to start wobbling, are generally the lower incisors (the lower front two teeth). If you remember the way they grew in during teething, the same order is mimicked when they fall out (first in, first out).
A sign that you definitely don't want to pull out the loose tooth, is if your child reports feeling pain every time they touch it. While a little swelling of the gums and discomfort is normal, they should not be in real pain. In this case, again, it is best to contact your dentist and go for a check-up.
The most important thing is to observe the wobble of the tooth. If it is only a little bit wobbly, then it is not ready to come out. Make sure the loose tooth is really very wobbly and about to fall out before you even consider pulling it out.
For the most part, the tooth will inevitably fall out at some point. It can take anything from a few weeks to a few months for a tooth to fall out. You will usually know when it is about to drop, because it will be hanging on by a thread and it will be possible to twist it around. And this is also the prime time to pull out a loose tooth.
Leaving a loose tooth to fall out is the most natural and easiest way to deal with a wobbly tooth. Leaving it in protects the gum from infection, and once it falls out, the next tooth should be ready to emerge as the next part of their adult smile. So if you can, hold back the temptation to pull at it.
So, do you know how to pull out a tooth? If you're going to pull out a loose tooth, be sure that it is pretty much dangling by a thread. It should be so ready to come out that it might fall out any second. Make sure all hands are washed and any tools you use (thread, cotton balls or a damp cloth) are completely clean.
(Nb This is for kids' baby teeth and not adult teeth - if you have a problem with adult teeth, please contact your dentist.)
The best way to empower your child is to allow them to pull out the loose tooth themselves.
Wiggling the tooth is a very normal way of making it fall out without any need to really pull on it at all. Encourage them to wash their hands if they're going to touch their tooth, otherwise, they can wiggle it with their tongue. If they are frustrated with how long it is taking, encourage them to wiggle it as much as possible.
Another way to encourage a loose tooth to fall out (without tying string to it and slamming the door!) is by eating a crunchy apple. This is not only healthy, but a really great way for it to fall out naturally, without too much of a fuss.
If your kids lose a tooth while eating something and happen to swallow it, there's no problem. It won't make them ill and will pass through the body without a hitch. The only thing is, they may be a little disappointed not to be able to put it underneath their pillow that night. But never fear, a little letter from the tooth fairy explaining that they will still find a treat waiting for them in the morning will make up for it.
If this is your child's first loose tooth, they may be a little nervous. Some may be quite scared. This is totally normal. Most kids are excited and experience positive feelings about it. A study by the University of Zurich even found that 80% of kids feel good about it.
But not all do. So what should you do in this case? If your child is the one in five that finds losing a tooth an upsetting or scary experience, then there are a couple of things that you can do to ease their concern or worry.
One is to have a story in mind before the first tooth comes or out, or (if they show any anxiety early on) before their first wobble. This Charlie and Lola book, My Wobbly Tooth Must Not Ever Never Fall Out, is a lovely introduction to the idea of losing teeth, for those who are feeling resistant or apprehensive.
Another idea is to have a cute cuddly toy as the tooth helper, that will carry the tooth and be super soft and reassuring to cuddle. This could be a kangaroo with a pouch ready to put the tooth in, or a teddy upon which you stitch a little pocket. This is a lovely idea, especially for those whose teeth come out earlier than usual (around ages four or five).
Ask your kids how they are feeling about the experience. Some kids get upset once the tooth has come out, so it's good to be prepared for a few tears, as it can be a little shocking at first. This can easily be managed by staying calm; as if you're not worried about it, then they likely won't be, either.
As baby teeth start falling out regularly, this is the perfect time to remind children of the importance of brushing twice a day, for two minutes and flossing every day. These teeth are now for life, so it's important to take care of them.
Some kids have a tendency to focus on the area the loose tooth has fallen out of, so make sure they don't brush too hard as to avoid irritating the gums, which will likely be a bit sore for a few days, following the tooth falling out.
Along with the obvious visit from the tooth fairy during the night, there are plenty of ways you can make the day that the first tooth (and many others) fall out, a magical one. There are a few things you will be needing in preparation for the tooth fairy's visit...
Preparing their room as a magical grotto is one way to make this day a special one they will remember for a very long time. Imagine their surprise when they open their bedroom door, and the tooth fairy's magic has already been at work!
These objects could appear magically just at the right time - as soon as the tooth has fallen out - as if the tooth fairy somehow knew and are now ready for their visit. This can be a lovely surprise for your child to find on the day they lose their first tooth.
What sweeter moment once that loose tooth is out, than to have your child go upstairs with you and to discover that the tooth fairy is expected to visit? And even better, that their door, a portal from fairy world to ours, has magically appeared!
The doors can be hand made, if you have the time, or otherwise can be bought online. Stick them on the wall, and if you have a hard floor or piece of card to hand, add some glitter in front of the door and a few footprints; as if the fairy has just visited and left a trail while setting up their room. (These can easily be added with barbie or another toy's feet.)
Unless you are a traditional put-it-under-the-pillow type, this is the perfect time to plant your new tooth holder in the right spot. These items could also appear mysteriously, as if by magic. Or if you would like your child to feel reassured, you could both leave it there for the fairy together.
There are many different places you could leave the loose tooth for the fairy to pick up:
You could use a little box, or a small silk pocket left on the door. This is useful if your child is a light sleeper, or you find going into their room difficult. Or, you could make a cute tooth fairy pocket pillow, if you're crafty.
Follow this video to make your own tooth matchbox. This could also be a sweet thing to do with your little one if they are nervous or excited about the whole process and are artistically inclined.
Another idea we think is adorable is to leave the tooth in a hot air balloon somewhere near and above the bed. (This makes finding the present the tooth fairy left a fun and exciting experience.) Just make sure there's an easy way of getting it down from the ceiling.
Otherwise, you can always make a tradition of your own. If your child especially likes trains, for example, you could leave a train carriage out with the tooth in. Whatever you choose, having a special place can make it an easier exchange for tired tooth fairies and a fun thing to do for kids.
To make the moment really special, you could put up some fairy lights (or in this case, tooth fairy lights!) around their bed. Add anything magical that will set the mood for the tooth fairy's visit. Close the curtains and plant any letters under their pillow or perched on their bedside lamp to complete the scene. Add some glitter, if you dare.
Add anything else that you can think of to create a magical atmosphere et voila! Your child will be amazed by what has happened to their room and super excited for the tooth fairy's visit.
This is the perfect time to leave a letter under their pillow (or wherever you will be leaving the presents) from the tooth fairy, congratulating them on losing their first ever tooth.
If your child is really nervous about it all, then a letter before the first loose tooth falls out might be a nice reminder, that it's all going to be ok and that the tooth fairy knows just how brave they really are, even if it is all a bit scary.
Before any teeth fall out, the fairy can also reply to any questions about it they might have. Concerns like it hurting can be calmed if the reassurance comes from the high authority on teeth (the tooth fairy!) because she will have seen a million of them.
Another idea is to give a keepsake journal to your child as soon as their first tooth falls out. Then, each time they lose a tooth, you can take a photo of their new smile to put in the journal, along with any memories of how they felt about it, and letters from the tooth fairy or any drawings they might have of the experience.
"How is Mr. Wobbly today?" Kids who are unsure about this whole teeth-falling-out process can also give their tooth a name. This makes a fun game of the whole thing as it is falling out. You can ask them how their wobbly tooth is doing on a daily basis, and watch their progress for yourself.
You can also have a couple of tooth jokes to hand, for whenever the next tooth falls out. This makes a lighthearted and fun moment out of it each time. And you can look forward to making them laugh, as their new smile appears.
You can arrange their very own visit from the tooth fairy, which pushes the level of magic up and over the limit! If you have a costume ready and aren't worried about breaking the fourth wall, mom or dad could dress up as the tooth fairy. To make it truly magical, have a friend they haven't met come round for a visit. This is a super fun moment for everyone.
If the actual tooth fairy turns up on the day their tooth falls out, what could be more magical than that?
An original idea is to celebrate this special moment with something that reminds your child of just how grown-up they are becoming. In Turkey, a wonderful tradition they have is to go to a workplace which inspires their child and to bury the tooth near or in front of it. So, if your little girl wants to become a nurse or a doctor, you could visit the local hospital and bury the tooth nearby. If your little boy wants to be a teacher, visit the local school, and so on.
The place can be anywhere that represents their aspirations for later life. This can be a refreshing way to remind your child of their meaning or purpose, give them a sense of direction and an excitement about growing up. This could be linked to the tooth fairy, and perhaps a little letter about their aspirations could be sent that night.
Some cultures leave their teeth in shoes outside of their bedroom door. Or if you don't care about keeping every single tooth, then you could throw your teeth on the roof, as they do in Japan.
So there you have it, when to pull (or not pull!) a loose tooth and how to make the moment as magical as possible. Because this happens but once a lifetime, why not make this a memorable moment for both you and your kids?